Portrait of a poet: Estelle Phillips

Portrait of a poet: Estelle Phillips

by Anita Foxall.

Poetry has been part of Estelle Phillips’ life since she was a small girl. Today she is a single mother of four who “is really bad at a lot of things and swears a lot, but can bake cakes.” Furthermore, she has made poetry a solid presence in her life. As a child, she remembers sitting on her bedroom floorboards writing, where she could look at a beech tree outside her window and let herself be spellbound by the wind making noise through the leaves. 

For Estelle, this force carried by poetry is one that contains the power to represent a multitude of meanings in few words. One of the most powerful messages being “you are not alone”, as she sees her poetry as “an instrument of justice for the underdog.”

Estelle. Main picture by Paul Bevan

She finds inspiration something hard to describe, but she knows that if she has an idea in her mind,  she won’t be able to settle until she puts it in writing. She is also greatly inspired by other forms of art, particularly photography, especially those photos that capture the perfection of a moment of beauty in everyday people. However, when it comes to inspiration from other poets, Ted Hughes is by far her favourite.

Between the 25th and 27th of February The Nuffield theatre presented 110 m.p.h as part of the Make it So Festival. This was Estelle’s very intimate show, which she wrote and performed herself. It is the story of a mother’s struggles, after she gets hurt in a car crash, which is the point where the story starts. It tells the story of a family desperately trying to bring joy back to their lives in the aftermath of the traumatic event. It is filled with memories and all the high and low moments they went through together to recover. This is a true biographical piece of work and as she explains: “It basically says ‘Thank you’ to my children, whom I love more than anything. They kept me alive.”

Reaching out

What Estelle loves the most about the creative process is when she can express what she means in a way that reaches out to people and that they understand. She finds this extremely rewarding, even when sometimes she finds herself stuck in themes that she can barely think about and make her quiver, due to the harshness of the memory.

Estelle is very actively involved in poetry events and tries to submit her work whenever she can, even though the submission process can be very intense and demoralizing, when you believe so much in your work, and it doesn’t end up being accepted; “it sounds ridiculous to care about that, but I do. Sometimes I find it hard to keep coming back from knockbacks.” There is a stringency to this process, but she also knows and accepts that this difficulty is part of it.

Responding to lockdown

Despite all the pressure and the highs and lows imposed by lockdown, Estelle has established a routine of writing in the morning, Monday to Friday; and at weekends, she only “allows” herself to write if she can’t help it. She finds that this routine provides some sense of normality and structure. Nevertheless, she also confessed that her self-doubt sky rocketed, though she has tried to embrace it, due to the honesty it has brought.

The other, equally hard, part of lockdown has made Estelle miss her fellow poets and artists, especially as she fears we may all be watching the decimation of the arts, with the closure of The Nuffield and other similar spaces struggling to survive. The vibrant creative community of this city have always been a great support to her, so she believes that this adversity will hopefully fuel artistic endeavour and that there will be a strong artistic response to what we are living, “I am excited to see what that response will be, and hope to be part of it, in some small way”.

Southampton’s creative scene have given her fond memories of when she attended a spoken word festival at The Art House where Pete the Temp and Hollie McNish were performing, and she was, she say, completely blown away. She continued attending similar events, one of them being Hammer and Tongue, also at The Art House, where she felt such a warm welcome that she felt encouraged to actually take part. And take part she did, for in April 2019, she won the slam, and then in December 2019 she won the final along with poet Craig Chalmers.

Below you can read some of Estelle’s poems, but before you do, Estelle’s message for those who want to dive in the poetry world she advises: “Tell the truth. If you can bear to live it, others can bear to hear it”.


My acquaintance, Fear

I sit with Fear.

He touches my shoulder, 

says, “Hey, look over here!”

I turn and look the other way

but he bounces up in front of me

smiling playfully, “Here I am!”

I stare straight ahead

as if ever, in my wildest dreams, 

just in a facing

I can lose him.


I am beginning to think he is forever

branded in my head

ready to spring,

stop my progress

from black to blue;

if I look up and see freedom sky

not my normal black box of dread

out he comes, “Surprise! It’s me!”


I want to take him, deftly throttle him, 

chuck him over my shoulder without so much as a thought 

to be sure his body is crumpled and fallen.

But I do not, 

hostaged to the memory

of how he came to be with me,

stalking my shadow, taking the sun, 

shaking his fists, one, two, one,

bitterly driving his road of before

when emptied of love, 

anger birthed in childhood,

bringing strife through my door

in his adulthood.


He sought me 

and had me 

and made me still.


Then he threatened my babies.


I knew he could kill.

How many and how long?

To this day I still don’t know how far he intended to go – 

my love exploded fearlessly, 

releasing the Joan of Arc in me.

When he smashed and he grabbed, 

I fell and I rose.

Again and again he came at me; 

I fell and rose incessantly, 


prepared to die

until he slunk away, 



I sit with Fear.

He touches my shoulder,

says, “Look over here!”

Joan smacks him in the lower jaw;

surprised, he falls straight to the floor,

I jump his ankles,

grind them down 

and he can’t leap

or clown around.

I yank his hair and haul him up,

look in his eyes and hold them fast,

watch him shrivel to our past


and dawn’s bright promise


all day long 

the bluest sky

and life’s birdsong,


and the babies sleep peacefully on.


Rebecca’s swim

Cayden was three.

Rebecca told him to stand

in the hard, wet sand. 

She took off her shoes, cardigan and dress

and shivered

on the beach

in a stripy swimsuit. 

Her body was wrinkled,


and her inner thighs sagged. 

Goose pimples prickled her arms.

She rubbed them briskly, 

walking away.


Cayden watched

water rise 

up her knees and thighs

to her waist. 


A wave came in,

cresting ocean

over her head. 

His grandmother stretched out her arms

and was gone. 


Childish sinews tautened with fright,

and Cayden waited.



Cold dread entered him. 


Suddenly, he heard a shout 

and there she was, 

lying in the sea

and calling out,

“Cayden, it’s lovely!” 

He leant 

towards her happiness. 


Waves carried her 

gracefully back to him.

Out of the water, 

she staggered heavily, 


A still from the “110 m.p.h.” film which was made by by Estelle Phillips and Paul Bevan, assisted by Louise Jones.